Working with my own coach and in coaching thousands of other entrepreneurs myself, I’ve discovered a few important things to help you make the most of your coaching experience and start to create a huge transformation in your life.
Coaches are invaluable support to have in your corner because a coach will help you get to where you want to be in your life, in your business, in your relationships or in whatever else you’d be looking to grow or expand in your life – you can find a coach for just about anything you can imagine these days.
I focus on business, relationship and personal coaching (some call it life coaching).
These are my areas of focus because I believe that building a business is the greatest way to experience personal freedom, infinite fulfillment, financial abundance and ever expanding joy in using what lights you up to serve others in deeply impactful ways. Also, in my experience, my relationships to other deeply impact my business success and all of it is just simply a reflection of my relationship with myself.
Most people can miss this because we are easily conditioned to think of our business like a job. It’s the thing we do to make money to survive, even though we don’t feel feel purposeful or fulfilled in it. This old way of working causes us to hold a kind of belief that our business and our life are separate and that the brand we are cultivating is something outside of us we are building rather than something inside of us that we are expressing.
I’m a coach because in realizing this, I became obsessed with personal growth and how to expand my own consciousness so that I can experience life in the greatest way I could imagine. You experience life via the level of consciousness you hold. If you want more out of life, you have to level up your self awareness so that you can have what also lives on that level.
One of the biggest mistakes you don’t want to make is hiring a coach because you think someone is going to tell you what to do.
You may think you don’t know what to do next in your business, in your life or in your relationships, but in reality, you feel stuck because you aren’t tapped into and living in alignment with the version of yourself you wish to be.
You are the ONLY one who knows what you need to do in any given scenario, however a coach can help you in gaining clarity about what you need to do. Not all coaches operate with this belief, but I believe autonomy is the greatest asset you can gain in working with a coach so equipping you with tools for how to navigate your current and future challenges is one of my superpowers in serving my clients. Once you are equipped with the tools needed for the job, the work gets far easier. These are not mindset hacks, these are tangible things you can put into action in your life to change it for the better.
Feeling lost is a very real experience (I know because I’ve become a pro at it!) and if you don’t know what to do, it’s ok. That’s where a coach can come in, not to tell you what to do, but to help guide you in discovering for yourself what you need to do.
Having the idea that someone can tell you what to do is outsourcing your self awareness and self trust and that is the epitome of self sabotage.
Working with a coach will help you step into deeper alignment with yourself and help you level-up internally so that you have the capacity, creativity and consciousness to level up externally.
It’s all about self-responsibility and self-leadership. Coaching is here to help you step out of your victim consciousness, own who you are and start to wield your power in being the creator of your life.
Knowing this before going into a coaching call can make all the difference in the results you walk away with because the magic in coaching comes not only from what happens during a call but also from what takes place before and after the call.
6 SIMPLE TIPS TO HELP YOU HAVE A POWERFUL AND TRANSFORMATIVE COACHING EXPERIENCE:
Get A Good Night’s Sleep
This may seem simple or basic, but it can be profound. The older I get, the more I realize how incredibly valuable sleep is and the power it has on my energy throughout the day. Coaching helps you expand your self awareness and that involves understanding and being conscious of your energy.
How we lead ourselves the night before a coaching call (and everyday for that matter) plays a huge role in how we show up tomorrow. A great night’s sleep helps us show up fully in our power (energized) so make a plan that allows you to come to our call rested, recharged and ready to co-create some magic together.
Wake Up & Get Inspired
There’s a quote that has always stuck with me. “You’re not tired, you’re uninspired.”
That can be a triggering thought for some but it lands deep for me and in my experience, it’s been consistently true. Our inspiration is a reflection of our level of consciousness and a skill we can gor by being intentional doing the things that make us feel the way we want to feel.
The day before a coaching call, take some time to consider how you spend your mornings and choose to consciously create your next morning by waking up and doing the things that you know will inspire you.
I personally love having a lot of time in the mornings to myself before I give anything to others. My typical mornings consist of moving my body (yoga, weight lifting, and hiking are my go to’s), breathwork and meditation, journaling, eating a healthy meal and enjoying a cup of tea while reading the latest book I’m obsessed with. Serving yourself first will fill your cup so that you can show up and serve others with the rest of your day.
Set Your Intentions
As soon as you get a coaching call on your calendar, immediately block off another 20-30 minute time slot on your calendar well before our call to get grounded and review what you’d love to walk away from our call with.
Be hungry for growth. Be aware about where you feel stuck.
What’s the bottleneck in your life or business right now?
What is holding you back?
How have you been feeling lately and how do you want to feel going forward?
What clarity do you want to walk away with?
Setting this time aside is key because you being clear will help you get to even greater levels of clarity in your call. If you haven’t lead yourself well coming into the call, part of our session may be focused on gaining that clarity so we know which direction we want to work in.
Another tip is to block off 10-15 minutes just before our call starts so that you can review these intentions and not feel rushed going into your session. Part of why your business may not be where you want it to be is in part because you aren’t adding any breathing room to anything in your life. Create some space, it makes a huge difference.
Choose A Quiet Space
You hearing clearly what’s going on inside of you is key to a transformational coaching call. Choosing a quiet outer world place will create a quiet inner world space to help you think, feel and navigate effectively during our time together.
Having headphones for our call can be a small but simple way to quiet the outer world a little more.
Turn Off The World
Distractions take us away from the present moment so make sure to silence your phone or put it in another room and close down the thousands of tabs we as creatives love to have up on our computers.
Distractions are inevitable in life however consciously creating an intentional space for your growth is great leadership and that involves eliminating them beforehand. Again, you are the creator of your reality.
Schedule Time To Integrate
Integration is the most important step in all of this. Even if you weren’t able to lead yourself well before our call, applying what insights you gained during our call will make all the difference in your life going forward.
Block off time on your calendar after our call to revisit what we explored together. Maybe this will be the time to rewatch or listen back through our call, journal about what came up, do some breathwork or meditate, have a conversation with someone you feel safe with or build an action plan so you can more deeply integrate your insights into your life.
Integrating is taking what lives in your mind and transferring it into your body. It is making your experience tangible and transformation ultimately comes not from a mind shift but an action shift.
Experiencing transformation in your life and business is all about you developing greater self leadership, taking deeper self responsibility for every part of your experience in this life and creating the change you want to see.
Coaching is a powerful tool in that journey and you taking responsibility for the role you play in your transformation is key to bringing it about.