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Embracing Mini-Retirements for Financial and Emotional Freedom

Mini-retirements. This is a term from Tim Ferris that speaks to how most people work their whole lives to get to the idealized age of “retirement” so that they can finally stop working and finally start chasing their actual dreams. I hadn’t heard of this term when I decided to take a break from my business and working for a season but it’s one that I’m anchored to now. I’ve personally found it so easy to be in constant growth, constant expansion and “leveling up” and though I love doing these things, my sabbatical showed me what else life has to offer outside of the constant grind. I find that the paradox to “retirement” is that most people commit their lives to a job they aren’t actually inspired by all with the focus of getting to the end of the road so they can relax and by the time they get there, do they still have the body and mind that can go do all the things they deeply wanted to do in their younger years? I’m not sure but I personally really like the idea of building my business in a sustainable way so that I can take the time to do the things I deeply desire now while I can. My friend Erin invited me on her podcast recently to talk more in depth about this topic and about my journey of taking a sabbatical and chasing after some dreams of mine that had nothing to do with making money. We dive into topics such as mindset, nervous system regulation, human design and what I learned by taking a step away and doing things opposite than what the world tells you to do. You can listen to our conversation everywhere podcasts stream. Check it out on Apple, Spotify or Youtube! And here’s a link to listen to all my Podcast Interviews over the years!

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THE WILD STORY OF HOW HUMAN DESIGN FOUND ME

One of the biggest questions I’ve gotten over the years of being in my own personal Human Design experiment as well as sharing it with others is, “How did you find Human Design?” Because of how many times this has come up, I felt compelled to share my journey in a bit more detail. In short, I can’t say that I found Human Design but rather, it feels as if the HD system had a target on me and sought me out relentlessly over a decade before I finally felt resonance with it. It’s taken time to be able to put this into words, however, my lack of resonance with Human Design was not because I intentionally explored it and decided it wasn’t for me, instead, I realized that I didn’t have the capacity, presence or awareness for it each time it tried to come into my life. The first time I heard the words “Human Design”, it was from my wife Emily’s lips as she handed me a book about it in 2014 and told me that she felt it would probably be something I was interested in. The degree at which my wife just knows shit, especially way in advanced, is mind boggling to me (and we later learned that it’s a big part of her unique design). When I opened the book, I felt completely overwhelmed at the information and decided in that moment that it wasn’t for me, or at least for now. In the years to follow, the words Human Design popped up in my path a few times or I’d here them off in a conversation between people in the various yoga and meditation communities I’ve been a part of. It was on the fringe of my mind but still not something I felt drawn to explore. Then in 2019, I was on my way to my first 10-day Vipassana Course in the South of Italy. I had been in the country teaching a workshop and photographing a wedding and planned some extra time to attend a course and learn this ancient form of meditation. Being that I was a few days out from the course, I decided to take my time driving down the country and explore several areas along the way. After leaving Chianti, I needed a place to stay for the night and being that I am a Line 3 rather than a Line 1 (this basically means that I always jump into the deep end of life without doing much research and I learn from what follows, good or bad), I just quickly chose an airbnb without much research and started heading towards the mountains of Riparbella. When I look back now, with my knowledge of Human Design, it blows my mind that life work so synchronistically. When I arrived at my Tuscan Farmhouse BnB for the evening, I learned that it used to be a Buddhist Center for meditators due to the quality of silence and purity of air in the region. How wild that of all places, I was drawn to this one while on my way down to my 10-day silent meditation course. I also realized upon arriving that this place was more like a villa with multiple guests staying in different rooms and that they held events and retreats on occasion. By the way, if you’re ever in Riparbella, here’s the link to the Airbnb, <a href=”https://www.airbnb.com/rooms/18801245″>Casale Pundarika</a>. I can’t recommend it enough. That evening, I went out for pizza and spent several hours with the owners of the villa who were unbelievably kind and wildly down-to-earth humans. I mean, how can you not be if you live in an old Buddhist Center in the mountains? They shared with me that there was a woman staying in one of the rooms that evening who did a small class earlier in the day that blew everyone’s mind. My curiosity was piqued and I was told that the next day there’d be a yoga class and that afterwards, this woman was going to be doing some breakouts. I had little information but I was open enough to just go with the flow so the next morning, I went to yoga and afterwards I was a part of some group exercises that I learned were part of what’s known as Family Constellations. This is a therapeutic method of revealing generational family patterns that are unconscious and in turn, creating pain in families. It was pretty wild to say the least. Afterwards, I was fortunate enough to meet this mysterious woman, named Noemi, and a short conversation turned into me deciding to do a 2-hour long conscious breathwork session with her an hour later. Again, at this point, I had no clue what I was getting myself into and knew none of this language, I was just open and moving with what felt right. Those 2 hours with Noemi were unbelievably transformative in helping me process something I had been wrestling with for a long time in regards to my Mom that I didn’t even realize was playing out in my life. After our session she asked for my birth details and long and behold, the pulled up my Human Design Chart! A random not thought out decision to book an airbnb at a random villa in the hills of somewhere I didn’t even know existed brought me back around this crazy system. She shared a few things, that honestly I don’t even remember, and yet again, I left intrigued but feeling like it still wasn’t time for me to deep dive more of Human Design. I did however, download an HD app and started collecting my friends and families charts. Looking back, I’m not sure why I did this since I couldn’t really share anything about it… Fast forward 3 years. I had just finished hiking the Pacific Crest Trail from Mexico to Canada and integrating back into society after living for 6 months in the mountains became a

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THE 3 KEYS TO STARTING YOUR HUMAN DESIGN EXPERIMENT

If you’re reading this, then you’ve probably looked up your Human Design Bodygraph online somewhere and you may now be wide eyed wondering what the heck all these shapes and lines mean! In this blog, I’m going to be unpacking exactly what to focus on first and also sharing the only 3 things you need to know when exploring your unique blueprint. If you haven’t looked up your Human Design chart yet, check out my post on What Human Design Is & How It Works, as I’ve included a link on how to gain free access to your chart and some personal thoughts and information that will be helpful as you start to dive into your design. Before I get into the specifics of where to start with your Human Design, I want to share something that will be wildly valuable as you dive into your chart. Human Design can be a very “heady” system and if it does not resonate immediately, there’s two things I would recommend. The first would be to stick with it, explore a little deeper and be on the lookout for different people sharing about it. I have personally found that who you learn from has a very big effect on the way you take in the information and sometimes just looking up random things online may not stick initially. When I first really started to learn my design, it was through working with a Conscious Rebirthing Breathwork Guide who slowly shared my design with me, one piece at a time, based on what I was struggling with in my life and business at the time. I’ve found that if you are looking up information for the sake of information, like most do when they first hear of Human Design, it only sticks so much. When you have a reason for something, it changes the game entirely for how you retain it because you can actually apply the information to something in life and start practicing with it. The second thing I would recommend, if it doesn’t resonate overtime, is to look into HD’s “sister” system, the Gene Keys. Whereas Human Design is a more heady, analytical, masculine approach to understanding your energy, the Gene Keys brings a far more feminine approach. I have worked with a lot of women who have found the Gene Keys to be more resonate at first in their journey of understanding their energy and I personally have found that the two systems, which are pretty much the same knowledge looked at from different perspectives, compliment each other beautifully. The further I have gotten in my Human Design experiment, the more I have looked to the Gene Keys for deeper contemplation. I’ll be sharing a lot more on the Gene Keys going forward as well because I find both are deeply valuable as you explore each respective system. And I share this with you because, knowing that Human Design is the yang to the Gene Keys yin, what can be easy to do when diving into your design is to simply learn the information yet never touch the integration of it. And in doing that, you will never truly understand or embody your design and step into your authentic self because it will all live in your head rather than in your body. It will continue to be a fantasy in your mind rather than a lived experience in your everyday life. You can take in all the information that HD has to share but integration is the key. Part of why I have found so much resonance with Human Design is because it has given me a path for my head to feel satisfied in taking in information while simultaneously assisting me on getting more in my body. As someone who has spent most of my life being a chronic over-thinker and deeply analytical person (I have both a defined Head & Ajna), this system has helped me shift more into my body and realize that the expansion of consciousness is not based off of what you learn or know but 100% on how you apply that knowledge and intellect in your life. So take in the information but focus on integration. Ok, now where do you start once you have looked up your chart? When you look up your design, you will always be shown your Bodygraph (an image of your 9 energy centers with the gates and channels that connect them) and your Keynotes. The Keynotes typically show the very basics of your chart which include your Energy (Aura) Type, your Strategy, your Authority, your Definition, and your Profile. Even this is more information than you actually need, though your Definition and Profile are a lot of fun (and often mind-blowing) to explore. These play a big role in your relationship to others and the archetypes or characters you are here to play out, consciously and unconsciously, in this lifetime. Something that I find to be so profoundly beautiful about this journey is that you don’t have to learn your entire design, study for years, or get into the depths of every center, gate, channel, variable or substructure. You simply need to know, embody and practice 3 key things: your type, your strategy and authority. And that’s it! If you focus on those 3 things, you will experience far more alignment and eventually ease in your life. What may not be “easeful” is actually practicing these things, because again, we are conditioned to be mental and live from our heads where as these 3 keys will bring you into your body. The challenge is not in the information but in the integration because that’s where we are breaking free from our conditioned selves and tearing down the walls of who we have been made to believe we “should be” rather than live in accordance to how our unique energy actually works. What’s even crazier is that by practicing and integrating these 3 keys – your type, strategy

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WHAT IS HUMAN DESIGN? AND HOW DOES IT WORK?

So you heard about this thing called Human Design and you decided to look into it, eh? Maybe you’ve looked up your chart on an app or website and felt completely overwhelmed at what you are looking at. If that’s you, don’t worry. I’ve been there myself and I’m here to make that overwhelm feel like a much more comfortable and fun level of whelm! Note: If you haven’t looked up your chart yet, I’ll include a few links at the bottom of this post for you to see your chart but for now, read on and stick around til the end! I’m going to breakdown the basics of what Human Design is and how it works here so you can start to understand this deeply profound system and in turn, start to uncover what is often difficult to discover about yourself and your unique journey in this lifetime. I’m going to be giving you my own thoughts and perspectives based on my personal Human Design experiment here as well as share some more general knowledge so you are more equipped going forward. Ok, let’s dive in! YOU DON’T NEED TO “BELIEVE IN” HUMAN DESIGN. First off, it’s important to say that Human Design is not some dogmatic or religious belief system. It’s completely agnostic and as someone who grew up in religion and then had a wild and very challenging personal awakening in my mid-twenties, it has been a breath of fresh air to find such an in-depth tool for the expansion of consciousness that doesn’t tell you what to believe, but rather gives you an opportunity to simply feel through your own experience and decide for yourself how resonate it is. You never need to “believe in” Human Design, and I tell everyone to be skeptical yet open minded about it, because in my opinion, we’ve been duped too many times as a society. Some people can feel that this is a challenging concept to grasp yet in my experience, it’s very normal and here’s why…  Most of our lives, we’ve been told to “believe in” something in order to get something or achieve something, however this philosophy is not meant to be “believed” but rather it’s meant to be experienced and experimented with. The validity of any of the information is based on your own felt-perception of that information. Though we can often be conditioned to “believe” something on a mental level, belief is actually based on experience and it’s wildly unfortunate that some beliefs that our culture mentally drills into people teaches them to not go out and explore new experiences because they are “wrong”, “bad” or even “sinful”. Experiences build belief. Period. In a culture that is conditioned to live in the mind, it’s no wonder why there’s such wild beliefs out there that aren’t rooted in reality. And with that, I will simply say, you are the only one who can choose to have the courage to open your own mind. No one else get’s to take that power from you unless you give it away to them. I’ve digressed, so let’s continue… One of the most fascinating aspects I have found about Human Design is that, although it can seem extremely analytical, it’s actually a tool to assist you in getting out of your head and into your body. As someone who has lived most of my life in my head, innerstanding my Human Design has completely changed my life and continues to the more I experiment and integrate. As you embark on your own experiment with your design, the key is not to mentally “make sense” out of what you learn as much as it’s about feeling the resonance of it, then contemplating it, and then experimenting with these energies in your everyday. Those who try to analytically understand every in and out of Human Design and how it came about miss the true beauty and mystery of it. My advice would be to go in with no expectations and just see how it feels in your body. And here’s why… Why Human Design Matters As we grow up, everyone experiences conditioning. We are told what to believe, what matters, how to act, what to do and how we should feel. If we aren’t literally told these things, the actions and energetic projections of others communicate far better than any words need to. The cause and effect of this conditioning is more detrimental than we realize because from a nervous system perspective, we end up being wired in such a way that causes us to live from the outside-in rather than from the inside-out. We are trained to survive rather than thrive. Through our childhood experiences, we learn to trust others more than ourselves, listen to the opinions of people we love (and even people we don’t) more than what we know to be true and we act in according to what ultimately will continue to give us a sense of love, even if it’s an unconscious conditional love. We grow up as people pleasers, perfectionists and codependent individuals because we simply were taught to be from childhood. This isn’t a “bad” thing however I’d argue it’s a deeply ineffective way to build a society of responsible, autonomous, authentic, and sovereign individuals who know how to take care of themselves so much that they overflow with excess energy to serve others with. And it’s the harsh reality we’ve perpetuated up to this point in the evolution of human beings. Eventually, some people wake up from their conditioning and start on a path of self awareness in which they are breaking down the walls they were told to live within. To get a little deeper into this, consider this… When we are first born, we are not mental beings and for roughly the first seven years of our lives we actually only experience life through energy in motion (emotion). If you consider physics, everything in existence is made up of energy and matter

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6 SIMPLE TIPS FOR A POWERFUL & TRANSFORMATIVE COACHING EXPERIENCE

Over the years of working with multiple coaches and in my experience of coaching thousands of other entrepreneurs myself, I’ve discovered a few important things to help you make the most out of every single one of your coaching calls with me and start to create a huge transformation in your life.  Working with a coach can radically transform your life because a great coach is going to help you take greater responsibility for your life and support you in becoming a greater self leader in all areas of your life. I focus my style of coaching towards two areas: Business and Being. “Being” meaning presence and helping you live a more authentic and aligned life where you are deeply connected to yourself and in turn, others. That typically looks like working with people in the areas of creating greater relationships, gaining more energy, and dealing with personal challenges around self worth. In business, I help translate those very personal things into an authentic brand and marketing message so you can attract and create the type of clients you really wish to work with while also dialing in the back end systems and helping you craft signature offerings that energize you and give you the confidence to want to share them with your audience. I feel drawn to these areas of coaching because I believe that building a business is the greatest way to experience personal freedom, infinite fulfillment, financial abundance, and ever expanding joy in using what lights you up to serve others in deeply impactful ways. For these things to truly happen in your life, you must thrive on a personal level outside of your work. It’s not that one has to happen before the other but they both happen simultaneously and as you confront your business problems, the personal problems underlying them emerge. That’s where the work lies. My journey of becoming a coach started when I realized this and ever since, I’ve been focused on expanding my own consciousness so that I can experience life in the greatest way I can imagine. You experience life at the level of consciousness you hold. If you want more out of life, you have to level up your self awareness so that you can have what also lives on that level. You may think you don’t know what to do next in your business, in your life or in your relationships, but in reality, you feel stuck because you aren’t tapped into and living in alignment with the version of yourself you wish to be. This is where self responsibility and self leadership comes in. The more responsibility you take for your life and the better you lead yourself moment by moment, the more you will create what you desire rather than get caught being a victim of your circumstances. Some of these “tips” may seem simple but it’s how well we lead ourselves in the simple things that make the biggest impact on the bigger things. Knowing these before going into a coaching call can make all the difference in the results you walk away with because the magic in coaching comes not only from what happens during a call but also from what takes place before and after the call. So here we go! 6 Simple Tips to Help You Have A Powerful & Transformative Coaching Experience 1. Get A Good Nights Sleep This may seem simple or basic, but it can be profound. The older I get, the more I realize how incredibly valuable sleep is and the power it has on my energy throughout the day. Coaching helps you expand your self awareness and that involves understanding and being conscious of your energy. How we lead ourselves the night before a coaching call (and everyday for that matter) plays a huge role in how we show up tomorrow. A great night’s sleep helps us show up fully in our power (energized) so make a plan that allows you to come to our call rested, recharged and ready to co-create some magic together. 2. Wake Up & Get Inspired There’s a quote that has always stuck with me. “You’re not tired, you’re uninspired.” That can be a triggering thought for some but it lands deep for me and in my experience, it’s been consistently true. Our inspiration is a reflection of our level of consciousness and a skill we can gor by being intentional doing the things that make us feel the way we want to feel. The day before a coaching call, take some time to consider how you spend your mornings and choose to consciously create your next morning by waking up and doing the things that you know will inspire you. I personally love having a lot of time in the mornings to myself before I give anything to others. My typical mornings consist of moving my body (yoga, weight lifting, and hiking are my go to’s), breathwork and meditation, journaling, eating a healthy meal and enjoying a cup of tea while reading the latest book I’m obsessed with. Serving yourself first will fill your cup so that you can show up and serve others with the rest of your day. 3. Set Intentions For Our Call As soon as you get a coaching call on your calendar, immediately block off another 20-30 minute time slot on your calendar well before our call to get grounded and review what you’d love to walk away from our call with. Be hungry for growth. Be aware about where you feel stuck. What’s the bottleneck in your life or business right now?What is holding you back?How have you been feeling lately and how do you want to feel going forward?What clarity do you want to walk away with? Setting this time aside is key because you being clear will help you get to even greater levels of clarity in your call. 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HOW TRAUMA MAY BE HOLDING YOU BACK IN YOUR BUSINESS

We all have 2 core needs growing up and how they were met by your care takers may be impacting how you’re able to show up in your business. The two core needs we have as children are for Attachment & Authenticity and if ever forced to choose only one of them, out of survival, we will abandon our true selves in order to please others and keep our relationships, even if they are toxic or destructive. So how does this tangibly impact your business? Let’s unpack both of these a little more in depth. First, we need… SECURE ATTACHMENT Again, this is something we need at the core just to simply survive as infants. Secure attachment as a child looks like “I care about you and I’m here to protect you. You are perfect exactly as you are and you don’t need to change.” I’ve had my fair share of challenges with my parents growing up, especially after I started to wake up to who I truly am and it’s been a process over years of deep inner work for me to fully process the emotional blockages I had as a child and understand as an adult now that my parents did the absolute best with what they had. Trauma is past down generation after generation on a cellular level and on a behavioral level, so how your parents raised you was simply a reflection of how they were raised. If your parents have done deeper healing of their own traumas, than they unconsciously passed those on to you through how they showed up for you. When you don’t have secure attachment, your nervous system learns to live in protection mode and habitually creates a life and mindset of scarcity because it’s constantly seeking safety in what you may be perceiving as a very unsafe world. A few ways this can show up energetically in your business is through…•Perfectionism•Procrastination•Not feeling good enough•Believing you need to take every client, even when you know they aren’t the best fit•Blocked in taking action•Insecurity•Not investing in yourself•Fear of raising your prices Second, we need… AUTHENTICITY We will abandon our authenticity if forced to choose because this simply allows us to thrive, where as any kind of attachment, secure or not, would at least keep us surviving. Authenticity is growing up in a household where things weren’t kept from you, where people could express and share their emotions openly and where vulnerability was encouraged and celebrated. Authenticity as a child looks like… “You are free to express yourself in whatever way you desire and your feelings are valid” When your authenticity needs aren’t met we learn to sacrifice ourselves for others, leaving us in a state of victim consciousness. A few ways this can show up energetically in your business is… •People pleasing•Lacking discipline•Not trusting yourself•Indecisiveness•Overthinking•Inconsistency•Lacking focus or direction•Struggling to share yourself publicly•Client codependency Facing your trauma is not easy but it’s incredibly worth it and one of the key ways to start to begin healing from your trauma is through safe relationships. Finding someone or a community of individuals whom you can fully show up as yourself with and know you won’t be judged. This is in part why I run my Mastermind the way I do, because learning how to grow your business also includes feeling safe to do so and having not just education around strategy but also practices, support and training to help you become a more self aware person. That’s what this is all about. Building a business is simply a path of deep self discovery and when you consciously choose to do the inner world work alongside the outer world work, you get the results you desire far more effectively, efficiently and sustainably. Want to know more about the Mastermind and whether it’s a community you would thrive in? CLICK HERE to learn more and I hope we have the opportunity to connect soon.

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DISCOVERING WHO YOU WERE BORN TO BE THROUGH HUMAN DESIGN

Your whole life, you’ve been told who you are. As we grow up, we are naturally conditioned by other people’s values, virtues and viewpoints. We buy into belief systems, societal moral codes and cultural preferences that cause us to never truly discover who we were born to be. If you are reading this, you may own your own business, and by choosing to be an entrepreneur, you’ve really chosen to go on a journey of discovering yourself. The more you understand and own who you uniquely are, the more fulfillment you will feel, the more financial abundance you will live into and the more freedom you will experience. Freedom is not something that comes from the outside in but rather it’s the other way around. When you align with your internal beingness, it unlocks an external doingness that leads to the life you truly desire. So who are you? Above all, you always get the final say. However what’s fascinating about the day and age we live in is that there are so many tools and so much knowledge now to help you understand more of yourself. Something that I have found to be wildly profound and powerful in my own journey of understanding myself is that every single individual on the planet actually has a unique energetic blueprint or design. Understanding this design helps you lead your life more purposefully and intentionally and it unlocks endless joy, fulfillment, confidence and inner peace. WILD RIGHT?? The flip side however, is that as we grow up and experience trauma and conditioning we become wired and trained to live out of alignment with our unique energetic blueprint which negatively impacts our life, relationships and business and causes unnecessary chaos. Like a hamster on a wheel, this chaos causes us to continually spiral through habitual patterns that keep us from attaining what we truly want our life to be like. I’ve been on this journey a while now and have experimented with a lot of the personal development world. I’ve read countless books, studied psychology, integrated trauma, worked with my inner child, gathered tools, practiced breathwork, attended silent meditation retreats, went on a walkabout in the woods for months, used plant medicine, worked with coaches, guides and therapists while continuously deep diving different spiritual and scientific practices, beliefs, ideologies and systems. I’ve swung from being deeply religious in the bible belt to full on west coast weed smokin woo-woo for a season, all the while gaining wisdom through each experience as I have found what works and what doesn’t for my life. What I’ve realized through all of it is that the more you open your mind and unlearn the patterns that aren’t actually serving you, the more you lead with who you were born to be. And that is the secret sauce to you gaining true success in your life. You’re not here to be anyone but yourself. The more you fight against yourself and try to do what others do or be who others are being, rather than listening, honoring and trusting what arises from within, the more challenge will perpetuate in your life because of course, what you resist, persists. But how do you “unlearn”? I remember the first time I heard this. It was like an old monk quote that made little sense to me. [Cut to a scene of an old monk… “you must unlearn what you have learned!”] Unlearning is the act of deconditioning. It’s the process of shifting out of who you were told to be and into who you were born to be. Unlearning is often an uncomfortable journey though because for the most part, it almost always comes through failing in some way. We don’t learn much of anything from our successes but we radically change our life when we integrate the lessons and insights we gain from our mistakes. So what if there was a way we could somewhat get ahead of these failures and shortcomings? Not in an attempt to avoid failure (that’s a beautiful part of life), but rather to shift our perspective on it and be more intentional with our choices and what we invest our time, energy and resources into? What if you could get a full picture of your strengths while simultaneously seeing your weaknesses so you knew where to focus but also what to be aware of? How much different would your life be if you didn’t beat yourself up for your shortcomings but in knowing them, you actually found more compassion for yourself? This is the beauty of what Human Design reveals. If you’ve never heard of Human Design, buckle up, because it’s a wild ride that may blow your mind and help you see yourself in such a more clear and compassionate light. Human Design is a system that came about in 1987 by a man named Alan (Robert) Krakower who is now known as Ra Uru Hu and it serves as a synthesis of multiple ancient and modern sciences including Eastern and Western Astrology, the Judaic Kabbalah, the Vedas or Yoga Chakra System, the Chinese iChing and Quantum Physics. Together these systems combined with the data of your exact birth time, date and location create what’s known as your Bodygraph. This is the map of you, the user manual to your life if you will, and it reveals how your energy works and how you best interact with others in the world. This is not just another personality test but rather a radically in-depth blueprint for the fixed energetic mechanics of you as an individual human being. What I love most about Human Design is that it’s not some dogma, belief system or woo-woo ritual you should blindly believe or buy into.Rather, it was created to be a personal experiment and one that you navigate and play with based on your own felt experience. And it’s back by both science and spirituality. If you’ve never looked up your chart, I’d recommend starting at GeneticMatrix.com.

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